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DIVORCE TIPS

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Refrain from burdening the children with parental worries, especially parental financial, career or social problems. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his Roseland, NJ office (973) 403-9200. You may also read more articles on divorce at vuotto.com

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Engage in a cooling off period before reacting to your spouses (or ex-spouses) upsetting communications. The worst thing you can do is to email/text back a nasty response hastily drafted that can be used against you later in the litigation. Sometimes the best reaction, is no reaction. For more information read more

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Be reasonably flexible in rearranging dates and time with the children to support important extended family events or activities important to the children. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his Roseland, NJ office (973) 403-9200. You may also read more

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DIVORCE TIP OF THE WEEK Divorce can be expensive. However, the cost can be unnecessarily increased by not reviewing the invoices that you receive from your professionals upon receipt. Don’t just look at the balance owed. Critically review what work was done (assuming details are provided). If details of the read more

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Use discretion as to the time and frequency of phone calls to the children. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his Roseland, NJ office (973) 403-9200. You may also read more articles on divorce at vuotto.com

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Take a consistent and predictable role in the children’s life, using time with the children to strengthen a relationship with him/her. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his Roseland, NJ office (973) 403-9200. You may also read more read more

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Refrain from fighting or arguing with the other parent in the presence of the children. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his Roseland, NJ office (973) 403-9200. You may also read more articles on divorce at vuotto.com

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As to modifying an alimony obligation, it is the public policy of New Jersey that the legal obligation of the supporting spouse is superseded and ends on the remarriage of the dependent spouse. In effect, the new marriage bond itself creates a change of circumstances that the Legislature deemed sufficiently read more

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Present a reasoned, open, cooperative, approach to solving problems and explicitly acknowledge the other parent’s concerns in family discussions. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his Roseland, NJ office (973) 403-9200. You may also read more articles on read more

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Grandparent visitation: Pursuant to Moriarty v. Bradt, 177 N.J. 84(2003), cert. denied, 540 U.S. 1177 (2004), the New Jersey Supreme Court concluded that the need to avoid harm to the child is “the only state interest warranting the implication of the State’s parens patriae jurisdiction to overcome the presumption in read more

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Don’t take sides or take issue with the day-to-day decisions or actions made by the other parent, especially in front of the children. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his Roseland, NJ office (973) 403-9200. You may also read more

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Give as much warning as possible to the other parent when requesting changes in schedules or plans. Except for emergencies, make changes in plans by mutual agreement with reasonable notice to the other parent. Punctually observe time schedules. The late parent should phone, leaving word as to the reason for read more

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Refrain from attempting to bargain away child support for other things that results in a lessening of support due for a child "[T]he right to support belongs to the child. ... For this reason and because of the State's parens patriae interest in assuring a proper level of support for read more

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When in the midst of divorce or thereafter, don’t use the children as messengers between you and your spouse or ex-spouse. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his Roseland, NJ office (973) 403-9200. You may also read more read more

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Remember that "Emancipation of a child is reached when the fundamental dependent relationship between parent and child is concluded, the parent relinquishes the right to custody and is relieved of the burden of support, and the child is no longer entitled to support." Filippone v. Lee, 304 N.J. Super. 301, read more

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Communicate with your spouse openly, honestly, and regularly to avoid misunderstandings which are harmful to the children, and to plan together as parents. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his Roseland, NJ office (973) 403-9200. You may also read more

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Consider arbitration of your family law matter. The public policy of New Jersey favors arbitration. Arbitration is a process by which parties enter into a contract or agreement to have the issues in their dispute determined by a third party called an arbitrator or umpire. Arbitration is a method to read more

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Provide your children with an emotional environment in which she/he is free to continue to love the other parent. Encourage a good feeling from the children about the other parent and his/her extended families. Encourage the children to remember the other parent on special occasions, allowing him/her to telephone on read more

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Learn About the Tools of Discovery: Very often, one spouse does not have complete knowledge of the other party’s assets, liabilities, income or activities. That is when “discovery” comes into play. Essentially, “discovery” is organized information gathering. It can encompass that which is permitted by the Rules of Court or read more

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Children of divorcing parents have the right to honest and age appropriate answers to questions about the changing family without placing blame on either parent. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his Roseland, NJ office (973) 403-9200. You read more

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Summarize Your Education/Earnings & Employment Histories: There are many factors that are considered when establishing alimony and child support. These factors include, but are not limited to, the length of marriage, contributions to the marriage, age, health, as well as a myriad of other factors. Chief among these factors is read more

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Children involved in the divorce process have the right not to be perceived as a source of argument between the parents and particularly to be a willing or an unwilling participant in arguments because they occur within his/her hearing. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck read more

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List Assets & Liabilities:  A major part of the case will be the “equitable distribution” of marital property.  There are three main steps in the process of dividing marital property and debts in a divorce case:  (1) identify the property; (2) value the property; and (3) distribute the property.  This read more

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Remember that children have the right to be assured that the parents’ decision to divorce was not caused by anything in the children’s control. Once you’ve decided to divorce, try to speak to your children together and show them a united front so that they can see that, although you read more

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Gather Information & Documents: You can avoid many months of litigation and thousands of dollars by gathering and copying key financial records in advance including but not limited to: (a) tax returns (personal and business - typically past five years); (b) spending records (preferably three years of checking account statements, read more

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Children whose parents are divorcing have the right to continue to express love, affection and respect for each parent without having to stifle that love because of fear or disapproval of the other parent and the right to be treated as an important human being, with unique feelings, ideas and read more

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Identify Your Issues & List Your Goals (Wish List & Bottom Line): Once you have summarized your marital history to your attorney, identify your major issues (e.g., custody, time-sharing, alimony, child support, value of a business, hidden assets, personal injuries, etc.). For example, “I want joint legal custody; to be read more

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There are certain attributes that you should look for in a divorce attorney. Of course, these attributes may vary depending on your needs and goals. However, primarily, you should look for an attorney who has a number of the following qualifications and/or characteristics: (1) is certified by the Supreme Court read more

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Children of divorcing parties have the right to continuing care and guidance from both parents and to learn about and appreciate what is good in each parent. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his Roseland, NJ office (973) read more

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With certain limited exceptions, courts do not usually consider who was at fault in the break up of the marriage when dealing with financial issues. Therefore, as hard as it may be, try not to focus on the reasons for the dissolution of the marriage. For more information about your read more

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Marital Lifestyle is a statutory factor for various aspects of a divorce including child support, alimony, and property division. You need to give the underlying information to your attorney so that he or she can effectively argue as to lifestyle to the extent relevant. Basically, explain how you live your read more

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Remember that children of divorcing parties have the right to a relaxed, secure and continuing relationship with both parents and to be able to experience regular and consistent contact with both parents. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone at his read more

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Keep emotions in check. Fear and other emotional reactions to the breakup of a marriage, while totally understandable, can derail your ultimate goal of a fair, economical and expeditious resolution to your divorce. For more information about your rights in divorce, please contact Chuck Vuotto at cvuotto@starrgern.com or by phone read more